Everything is amazing, nobody is happy

This is really worth listening to, what about being happy and grateful?
Everything is amazing, nobody is happy…

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Celebrate what’s right with the world

On Twitter I got a link to Celebrate what’s right with the world – Dewitt Jones which is a fantastic video with an important message.

Celebrate What’s Right With The World teaches what a powerful force having a vision of possibilities can be for you. Do you have a vision for your organization? More importantly, do you have one for yourself? One that gets you excited every morning and keeps you open to possibilities.

Dewitt Jones talks about the importance of focusing on what’s right in the world instead of what’s wrong. He also talks about “when we believe it, we will see it”.

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The Definitive List of Free Personal Development Ebooks

Peter Clemens over at The Change Blog has created The Definitive List of Free Personal Development Ebooks. It is a collection that covers different aspects of personal development. Dive in and see what’s there for you!

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It is time for me to refocus

I realized that my blogs overlapped in topics as well as had side topics that made it hard for a reader to see what the blog really was meant to cover.

Refocus = put again into focus or focus more sharply.

The side topics at Forty Plus Two will be covered in my new blog, Bengt’s Notes, which will help me get a clearer focus here. It will be back to the core topics which are coaching and personal development.

This is how it will work with my blogs from now on:

  • Key Coaching, my coaching business with a blog in Swedish.
  • Forty Plus Two, my blog about coaching and personal development.
  • Zen and more, my personal blog about self-discovery.
  • Bengt’s Notes has quotes, links and notes – on various topics that interests me.
  • doodling, a blog for fun stuff.
  • CoachGuiden.se, a Swedish site about coaching.
  • Bengt Wendel is my hub which connects my sites, blogs and projects.

This means it will be easier for me (and my readers) to know what each blog is about. Bengt’s Notes sounds as “miscellaneous” but apart from quotes it will mostly be about blogging (WordPress), software, Twitter, tips and tools.

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The Number One Dream Killer?

Jonathan Mead from Illuminated Mind has a guest post over at Zen Habits, The Number One Dream Killer: Doing What Works. The post is about Jonathan’s book Reclaim Your Dreams.

If we want to have any hope at making our dreams a reality, we have to carve out our own path. We have to find a way to get paid to be ourselves. We must drop conventional wisdom (collective assumption) and break away from the herd.

Jonathan writes about two things in this post:
• Stop caring, and…
• Break our uncertainty threshold.

Getting outside our comfort zone is scary but necessary if we want to grow. As I posted, I have decided to walk my talk and will work in order to make that dream a reality.

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Leo Babauta writes about the Tao of Marketing

Over at Micro Persuasion is an interesting guest post, Leo Babauta on the Tao of Marketing. Leao writes about his own marketing experiences connected to his site Zen Habits and his book The Power of Less. He writes about th eold way of marketing before getting into the new way.

Marketers must adopt an entirely new strategy — more than that, an entirely new mindset. They must get away from trying to create new desires in people, trying to push and force themselves on people, trying to control people.

Instead, find a more natural way. Find out what people want, and then give it to them. Offer them value, and they will appreciate that. Be a resource. Give things away. Don’t force — let them come to you, because of all the value you offer.

Leo lists these points, each explained more in his blog post:
• Accept things as they are.
• Don’t control.
• Don’t force.
• Do less.
• Do small things.
• Be valuable.
• Attract, don’t smother.

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Facebook and new terms of service

There are heated discussions about Facebook and their new terms of service (TOS). But not much has changed between the old and new versions. In Facebook owns your content. All of it. Forever. you can compare the old and new terms of service. Even the old terms of service gave Facebook the license to use your data any way they see fit. The major change is that the new terms of service gives Facebook the right to continue to use your data there even if you leave Facebook.

The word own is not correct, the FB TOS gives them “an irrevocable, perpetual, non-exclusive, transferable, fully paid, worldwide license”. It also limits their use to “in connection with the Facebook Service or the promotion thereof.”

Chris Brogan brings up what we all should consider, Wake Up to How You Share on the Web.

If you’re freaked out by Facebook, go back and take a serious look at ALL the places you’re using on the web and ask yourself what the impact of them owning your stuff really is. It’s not what you think. It’s either worse or a non-issue, depending on how you see things.

In other words, do not join if you do not like the terms. Or at least be careful about what you store in their system.

Update February 8, 2009.
Mashable reports this: Breaking: Facebook Reverts to Previous Terms of Service. There is quote from the Facebook blog, CEO Mark Zuckerberg says:

Going forward, we’ve decided to take a new approach towards developing our terms. We concluded that returning to our previous terms was the right thing for now. As I said yesterday, we think that a lot of the language in our terms is overly formal and protective so we don’t plan to leave it there for long.

When logging in to Facebook today, this text showed up:

A couple of weeks ago, we posted an update to our Terms of Use that we hoped would clarify some parts of it for our users. Over the past couple of days, we have received a lot of questions and comments about these updated terms and what they mean for people and their information. Because of the feedback we received, we have decided to return to our previous Terms of Use while we resolve the issues that people have raised.

Still – read Chris Brogan’s post above and consider how you handle your information on the internet.

Read more:
Facebook: All Your Stuff is Ours, Even if You Quit
Facebook founder enters data row
Zuckerberg On Who Owns User Data On Facebook: It’s Complicated

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An inspiring video

I got this videolink through Twitter: Hand in Hand.

I think the video is very inspiring and touching.

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Worry does not help

Today I came across this quote:

Worry doesn’t help tomorrow’s troubles, but it does ruin today’s happiness.

It really says a lot, worry does not solve problems – it only ruins the now.

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The Law of Attraction requires action

In his book, Personal Development for Smart People: The Conscious Pursuit of Personal Growth, Steve Pavlina comments on the Law of Attraction under Effort:

What about the Law of Attraction? Can’t you just sit on your butt all day and manifest what you want through the power of intention?

That would be a gross misunderstanding of how the Law of Attraction works. When you focus single-mindedly on what you want, you’ll begin to notice new resources appearing in your life. If you don’t take action, however, those resources will dry up and you’ll be no closer to your goals.

I am not keen on the Law of Attraction, there are too many that think that manifesting is all it takes. To sum it up, Attraction = Attract + Action.

Update March 21, 2009.
Over at The Discomfort Zone, Tim Browson’s blog, is a guest post by Sean Platt, Writer Dad and Ghostwriter Dad. The post The Secret Is, You’re Busted is a great post with many great comments (mine included).

See also Is The Law of Attraction A Con?.

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