Curly’s Law

I have posted about The Rule of One or Curly’s Law, a post at Rebel Zen reminded me about Curly and his secret of life. The secret is simple, One thing. Just one thing. You stick to that and the rest don’t mean shit. The problem of course is figuring out what your own “one thing” is.

The subline of the report says How the Mega-Successful use this rule to achieve greatness and how you can too. Steve and Seamus connect Curly’s Law with Andrew Carnegie (at one time the richest man in the world) and what is known as Carnegie’s secret. They also give example of other successful people that focus on just one thing and become great at that.

My only complaint is that the e-book is compact, all text and no images. That is OK in an ordinary book but in e-books I prefer a lighter and more inviting look.

What’s In the Report?
The report has four chapters that are originally posted at their blog plus three articles that are not available on the blog. All in all seven chapters that introduce you to the concept of Curly’s Law, explain Curly’s Law in detail and in the bonus articles (chapter 5 – 7) go deeper into the concept. The report gives you tools to apply this rule in order to achieve great(er) success in your life.

You can get the free e-book at Curly’s Law. What they ask in return is that you join their Rebel Zen email newsletter.

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Understanding Fear Of Abandonment

Séamus Anthony have two interesting posts at Living Now, How to conquer your fear of abandonment (and horses) Part one and How to conquer your fear of abandonment (and horses) Part two. It is the story about when he went trail-riding for the first time but is also about the fear of abondonment and how that affects our life. His lesson from the ride is summed up like this:

Whatever you’re doing, and despite whatever fears you hold, the trick to getting the most out of life is to loosen your hold of the reins, relax, and just do it anyway!

Fear Of Abandonment is a new term for me but I am familar with what it is, from personal experience as well as from coaching clients. As usual fear is treated by realizing and accepting that we have it, bringing the fear out into the light and then working on reprogramming ourselves.

In More On Courage and Facing Your Fears there is a quote that summarize this nicely:

Confront your fears, list them, get to know them, and only then will you be able to put them aside and move ahead. ~ Jerry Gillies

See also:
Understanding Fear Of Abandonment Recognizing And Dealing With Abandonment Issues
More On Trust

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Mission statement, visualization and pitch

Jason at JibberJobber posted about The Visualization – Where Will You Be? and Career Management Visualization – an example.

I hate your job has an interesting post about Personal Mission Statements: Way Cool where it says something well worth to remember and consider:

Do you realize that the average person spends more time planning a vacation than they spend planning their life?

In another post, An Explosion of Purpose and Fulfillment, comes good advice:

Avoid putting in fluff and buzzwords unless you’re a corporation–try to create a document that really focuses on actions that you can perform each day and that are meaningful to you.

I work as a coach and am working on some pitches for that:
• I make the world a better place, one person at a time.
• I help people change their life for the better.
• I help people find and attain their goals.

Here are some interesting openings from The Life Coaching Handbook
• Call me only if you are serious abut making the changes you have always wanted to make.
• I am a magician. I reawaken dreams and make them come true.
• I am in show business – I show you how to achieve the life you want.

I avoid using the word coach because then people already have a label for me and stop listening. My intention is to make them interested enough to ask more.

See also:
Elevator pitch – Networking pitch
Hook, line and sinker
Mission Statement Builder

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Link Medley Coaching

Life Coaches Blog writes about the importance of really listening, Tune In – Give the Gift of Listening.

Never the Same River Twice starts a series called Changes that stick, the first part is How to Make Lasting Changes. You find the entire series under Changes That Stick.

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Link Medley Personal development

Yin vs Yang has an interesting post about How to Properly Plan For Success Today.

The Discomfort Zone writes that If you want to become more open-minded and have the flexibility of thought that some of the great problems solvers possess, start to cultivate thinking like an infant again.

Will it change you? writes about the fundamental basics for good relationships.

Jonathan at Illuminated Mind posts about The Four Secrets to a (nearly) Perfect Relationship.

My Super-charged Life says that Real self-improvement begins with contentment.

Rebel Zen posts about the Top 5 Ways to Keep Your Ego in Check.

Credit: Photo by Bitterjug.

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Link Medley Blogging

The Blog Herald has a post about Blogger First Aid Kit.

Traffikd posts about Social Media Marketing and the Need for Focus.

Daily Blog Tips has a great post about 10 Ways to Brand Your Blog or Website Efficiently.

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Personal Development for Smart People

Steve Pavlina, a well known blogger, has published a book titled Personal Development for Smart People: The Conscious Pursuit of Personal Growth. I think posts at Steve’s blog are sometimes too long so I was not that interested in the book. But after reading Steve’s own sales page and some reviews (at Wisebread, Skills Toolbox and Hunter Nutall) I have changed my mind.

I like his triangle concept with three cornerstones (truth, love, and power) leading to this:

There are seven principles total: truth, love, power, oneness, authority, courage, and intelligence. All of these are universal principles, so they can be applied to any area of your life — health, relationships, spiritual development, finances, daily habits, etc.

I have ordered the book today and it is already in the mail. It will be an interesting read and a review will follow as soon as I have read the book.

Note: The imaged above is borrowed from Personal Development for Smart People: The Conscious Pursuit of Personal Growth.

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I Am The Walrus: Lessons In Personal Branding

There is an interesting e-book over at ChangeThis, I Am The Walrus: Lessons In Personal Branding from The Beatles. The e-book is built around a Beatles record, giving lessons in personal branding along the way.

The authors post about the e-book at their blog, ChangeThis Manifesto “I Am The Walrus” Released!.

The possibility of finding and spreading remarkable ideas, creating great things, and sharing them with others represents a wealth of opportunity (largely untapped). We hope that reading our manifesto helps you figure out your brand; that it encourages you to take some risks and be extraordinary. It’s easy to stay put and avoid change, but when you look back will you wish you’d said yes to do something different? We chose to say yes and we are doing something different…with a little help from our friends.

There is a series of “I Me Mine” that continue the process from the e-book.

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Do One Thing for Your Career Today

Jason at JibberJobber posted about a new idea of his, JibberJobber One Thing – Do One Thing for Your Career Today.

JibberJobber One Thing is a Yahoo Group that you can join to receive ONE email a day. The email will have ONE suggestion of something you can do for your career that day. It will be very, very short (one or two sentences) and actionable (something you can do that day).

I like the concept of one actionable idea a day and I have signed up. So can you, just go to JibberJobber One Thing.

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What I learned from Men with Pens

James and Harry from Men with Pens do site reviews in a great way written as stories, my blog was reviewed in Drive-by-Shooting Sunday: Forty Plus Two. I responded in a similar style in This place is a mess (after the shooting). When they reviewed this blog it looked like this:

Below I show their review of my blog as quotes and then give my comments. As you can see I have changed my theme in many ways due to the review.

A small black and white symbol hung outside the white, discreet building that was so pale, it was almost invisible.

That small black sign was the Kanji character for Ki (Qi) but is now gone.

Quiet is how the site comes off. It’s so pale and white that it lacks enough impact to hold visitor interest at a first glance, and a first glance is just about all a person has to grab readers online. The blue is too quiet and gets eaten up by all the white.

In the old layout the only blue was the light blue in the navigation bar under the header. I agree that the site looked far too pale.

The banner is wasted space and should have a more representational image than the kanji. You can still go with that white minimalist look, but it would be a good idea to add some color and spice with exotic flowers or smooth river stones on a white background.

I consider selecting a suitable image for the header, for now I have changed the white background to blue. That gives more punch than before.

Also, the title of the site seems unclear and relevant as well. Are you forty-two years old? Why 42? What does 42 have to do with personal development and blogging? And why does the tagline tell us this is a blog? As visitors, we want to know what we’ll take away from this site, not what type of site it is. Create a tagline that tells us what we’ll get if we stay to read. There has to be some benefit in this for us.

The site name comes from The Answer to The Ultimate Question Of Life, the Universe and Everything, 40 + 2 = 42. The name Forty Plus Two as such does not have much to do with either personal development or blogging but in personal development we are searching for answers about life. The tagline has been changed, hopefully for the better.

“Well, what’s that mean?” This time James pointed to the small signs leading visitors around. “Last 25? 25 what?”

Last 25 lists the last 25 posts, that page is now moved in under Archives.

The navigation titles really aren’t clear, so we suggest adding some description there.

I will see how I can make the titles in the navigation bar easier to understand.

The font of the navigation also looks a little odd as a serif selection. The rest of the site (minus the title) is sans serif. Try to always be consistent with fonts and pick one to use throughout the site.

I have changed so that the same font is used everywhere except in the header where I want something else.

Reorganize the title tags as well. Put them in a logical order for readers. Tips would be first, then Books, then Categories then About, then Contact and have Archives tucked in there last.

I prefer to place Categories second, after the Home button, and will rearrange the others but have not yet decided in which order.

You also need Home in your navigation. While traveling around your site, we couldn’t get back to the main page easily and had to keep using our back button of our browser.

I have added a Home button. The blog title in the header was (and still is) clickable for home.

Indeed. In fact, there is so much text on the site that it all ends up blending together. The sidebar links resemble newspaper columns, and the overall font is tiny and hard to read. There are no images to make the experience more interesting.

The overall font is now larger. I usually have one image in each post, I agree that it improves looks as well as make it more interesting.

We also noticed that while the sidebar links look jammed like a newspaper, the content area for the main posts look oddly spaced out.

Sidebars are changed, more distinct headers, and the spacing in the content area is corrected.

Another issue we noticed is that the options at the bottom of each post (such as Leave a Comment) are terribly jammed together, again making it difficult to read what’s there.

I have adjusted that area, more space between lines which makes it easier to read.

Your About text gets completely lost in the sea of words, so make that stand out more and also punch up the text itself. It’s incredibly boring to read and while functional, it’s not benefit rich. Put some impact in that text. Get people excited, not snoozing!

I am working on a new About text and will style it so that it stands out more.

We suggest changing your RSS icon to one that is more appealing and move it down into the sidebar. It’s not in a bad location where it is, but moving it down gives you a chance to put something nice into your banner to add some visual impact. Also, it would replace that link to your RSS in the sidebar (though you should keep a link for “get updates via email instead”).

I like the icon with the man on the bench so I keep it for now. I picked a smaller version and moved the subscribe part from the header to the top of the sidebar.

Recent Posts, Recent Comments and Random Posts are all good choices. With some more space and hopefully a better choice of colors (pale blue on white is really tough to read), that area will look better and more inviting.

Colors are changed, a darker blue for links makes reading easier.

Find More in the Archives is just going overboard, though. Archives is in the navigation and people can find it. You have links already in the sidebar, and this extra feature becomes redundant. Take it out.

Done, that part is removed.

My Favorites is a nice touch, but there are too many links there. Keep lists of links down to 3, 5, or 7 to prevent option paralysis in readers. Also, put that My Favorites above the Random Posts, because people are more attracted to what someone else likes a lot versus something random pulled from anything.

I have reduced the number of My Favorites to seven and Random Posts are below.

This reorganization also means that, basically, you don’t need a three-column theme, and a two column theme would have been a better choice. You have no ad space, no funky widgets, no nothing but links, so you don’t need to capitalize on your above the fold real estate as much. Having a two column theme would be better and give you more space to add images to the posts instead.

I like three-column themes better that two column themes so I stick to three columns. There will be some ads later, for affilate links like Zen To Done.

The review made me see my theme in a different way and the changes I have done has – in my opinion – improved the look and feel of my blog.

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